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Reflections

Essays from Kristy Forbes exploring PDA, autistic experience, parenting, identity, care, systems and the ordinary moments that shape family life.

The Unfurling

May 31, 2026

This piece was first published on Kristy's Substack. Shared here so it's easier to find.


"A child gives one word, and the adult wants a paragraph. A teenager shares one feeling, and the parent asks five questions. T...

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I Stopped Pulling Them Out of Their World and I Started Stepping Into It

May 31, 2026

Imagination isn't a problem. IĀ really want to say that upfront because for so many PDA kids, imagination is how they stay connected to the world, not how they escape it. Role play, characters, other realities, these are ...

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I have not yet rebuilt.

Sep 22, 2023

Hello, I’m here writing. It isn’t easy, and it isn’t complete.

Be patient with me, please, as I figure out a way to communicate this internalised experience, these thousands of thoughts, these physical movements that co...

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Yesterday, someone trolled me on social media.

Aug 02, 2023
 

Yesterday, someone trolled me on social media.

That in itself isn’t the thing. That happens to autistic folks who joyfully resist the disorder narrative all the time.

It’s threatening to some, to read my writings or he...

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I’ll never ā€˜overcome’ my PDA neurobiology.

Aug 13, 2021
I’m often asked how, as a PDAer, I am able to overcome my need for control in parenting my own children with a PDA profile of autism.
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I don’t overcome it.
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I’ll never ā€˜overcome’ my neurobiology.
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I remember every single name, every single humiliation.

Aug 13, 2021

At fifteen years old, I left school midway through Year Nine and went into the workforce.

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I vehemently expressed that I would not return to school and with that, my mother said if I was not returning, I needed to get...

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This is how I live most of my life now.

Aug 13, 2021
Today I put aside a few hours to revisit my plan for thriving autistically.
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Those drop-offs of the very things that support my wellbeing happen so subtly and quickly as time goes on that I don’t even notice.
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My PDA neurobiology.

Jul 29, 2021
I'm up at 5am this morning.
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I have an appointment in the city and it's at a new address I haven't been to before.
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This means that I get up early, google the address over coffee to check out some images
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Food, glorious food!

Jun 04, 2021

Trigger Warning: Mentions food, eating disorders and sensory aversions.

Please note the below is my personal experience and I am not a qualified medical professional or dietician.

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Food. Glorious food.

Let’s talk ab...

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My disability is my most sacred ally.

May 06, 2021
So much of my anger, resentment and self-loathing as a young person came from the pressure I felt to mask.
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Masking is both something I, as an autistic person partake in as a choice at times to get to where I wa
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