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Reflections

Essays from Kristy Forbes exploring PDA, autistic experience, parenting, identity, care, systems and the ordinary moments that shape family life.

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Let's discuss: "Living with autism."

Mar 18, 2021
I'd like to encourage individuals, professionals seeking out education to be better allies, and families of neurodivergent individuals to be cautious when engaging with any information and education around "neurodivers
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What I've learned as a PDAer...

Mar 11, 2021
If you've seen any of my instastories over at instagram.com/_kristyforbes; if you're in our inTune Access Support: Family CollectiveĀ membership then you'll be quite accustomed to seeing me in my pyjamas with my hair al
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Why wasn't I invited to be a Jedi? (a fun one)

Mar 03, 2021
Random weekday memory...
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I once went against my better judgement out of curiosity (it's ALWAYS that autistic curiosity and fascination with humans, concepts and belief systems) and sat in on a live webinar on D
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You have permission to protect your energy.

Feb 24, 2021
It's okay to let others squirm a little; to provide them an opportunity to take responsibility for their discomfort.
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It's okay for us to speak up, to correct pronouns, to share our language preferences and to a
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The problem with mainstream education: Is there one?

Feb 04, 2021
This week, we made the decision to bring home the last of our girls from the mainstream education system.
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My inner knowing all along was that in order to thrive, she would do best immersed in autistic culture a
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You might be doing it wrong.

Feb 04, 2021

Many parents and educators will often witness behaviour from neurodivergent people and find it baffling or confusing because theyā€™re unable to connect it to a particular and recent event.


Being autistic means my process...

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PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) and villains.

Dec 28, 2020
Why do so many children with a PDA autistic profile take on the character of a villain, a bad guy or a monster, werewolf, zombie, anything that seems a disapproved of figure?
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Because we come to understand very
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Screens, screens, screeeeeens!

Dec 18, 2020
The holiday season isn't only difficult for ND families due to get togethers, the pressures of complying with "special" days, sensory bombardment, rejection due to behaviour and unsolicited advice, there's also this..
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Her behaviour was unacceptable.

Dec 04, 2020

(Shared with permission from my adult daughter.)

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Cleaning out the shed today, I found a box of things collected since my teens.

I felt such sadness when I found this.

I was 18 when my first baby was born.

I was

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The diversity of resilience.

Dec 04, 2020

Ahhh, resilience.

The word "resilience" and "resilient" sit uncomfortably for me.

I've seen it used for belittling, dismissing, gaslighting, invalidating and bullying more than I've seen it used for good.

How do we measure ...

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