Essays from Kristy Forbes exploring PDA, autistic experience, parenting, identity, care, systems and the ordinary moments that shape family life.
It never gets easier, nor am I ever better prepared for the moments my autistic children (and I) are exposed to another parent’s grief stricken story about their autistic child.
I was conditioned to believe that the fir...
Hello, I’m here writing. It isn’t easy, and it isn’t complete.
Be patient with me, please, as I figure out a way to communicate this internalised experience, these thousands of thoughts, these physical movements that co...
Walt Whitman said "When I give, I give myself".
Both a blessing and a curse, this is something I am forever navigating and managing. I'm someone that loves to give, because it makes me feel good to see others doing well...
I had a close friend and colleague reach out to me about six months ago to ask how I'd feel about them writing a book on parenting neurodivergent children. They know that I'm also working on this (insert laughter coupled...
We have a saying in our family: "PDAers don't make promises".
It's a letting off the hook for all of us, because I can't tell you the amount of times adults try to bargain, not realising the demand that is wrapped up in...
(ETA: This is not about being against therapy. It is a piece on the problematic nature of generic frameworks thrown at autistic people, rather than a consideration of the individual needs, wants, preferences and if there...
Yesterday, someone trolled me on social media.
That in itself isn’t the thing. That happens to autistic folks who joyfully resist the disorder narrative all the time.
It’s threatening to some, to read my writings or he...
Trigger warning: ABA, restraint, compliance therapies, autistic child.
I don't typically share such personal stories about my loved ones, but I feel this one is really, really important.
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She’s 12. I knew she was autis...
Long story short.
Oh, I love the fantasy of the "long story short" right there for me, an ADHDer.
But I'll try.
Last year, I laid on a surgery table, unresponsive, in hypertensive crisis.
I was not responding to me
...
For the PDAer, holidays, birthdays and occasional events can be extremely challenging.
Firstly, there are expectations. The expectation to celebrate, be happy and merry, to receive with thanks and gratitude. To give, to...