Reflections
Essays from Kristy Forbes exploring PDA, autistic experience, parenting, identity, care, systems and the ordinary moments that shape family life.
Navigating ND Culture: Parenting
Oct 30, 2021
Hello weekend!Ā
This weekendĀ I chat with you about the varying parenting approaches and styles of neurodivergent families.Ā
So grab a cuppa, get comfy, and enjoy!Ā
KF xĀ
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Stop looking away from intersectionality
Oct 14, 2021
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(Warning: This written content includes discussion around themes of racism, transphobia, homophobia, suicidality.).
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Almost every time I address the topic of intersectionality on my social media, pe...
What happens when you say "No."
Oct 07, 2021
Do you know that you can say No?
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So many of us donāt.
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Weāve been conditioned to understand that No means others will talk behind our backs about our selfishness or coldness.
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We know it will ofte
...I am not my trauma
Sep 24, 2021
Yesterday, my youngest child came inside the house to tell me a bird had fallen from itās nest.
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As I neared the back fence, where all the neighbourhood birds gather in all of their breeds, colours, sounds and v
...Failed relationships & neurodivergence
Sep 11, 2021
Ahh, the wonderful weekend. I hope you're having a brilliant one so far.
This week, for something different, the team and I decided we'd share a conversation with community from my Facebook page this past week.
We touc...
It flows through my bloodlines
Aug 25, 2021
We are FIXATED on behaviour as a society. We hastily attach meaning and intention to it, and project our own biased (mis)understandings onto it, based on all that lies within US.
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For many of us, what ālies with...
I'd rather stab my eye than do this... (spoiler: it's group work)
Aug 13, 2021
I still cringe inside when remembering the moments I heard āOkay everyone, find a partnerā, or āSo weāre going to get into groups of threeā...
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No.
Nah, not doinā it.
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I would rather stab myself in t
...Iāll never āovercomeā my PDA neurobiology.
Aug 13, 2021
Iām often asked how, as a PDAer, I am able to overcome my need for control in parenting my own children with a PDA profile of autism.
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I donāt overcome it.
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Iāll never āovercomeā my neurobiology.
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This is Me.
Aug 13, 2021
I no longer paint my nails.
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I don't adorn myself with jewellery.
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I take my time responding to messages and I seldom answer my phone. I have a message bank.
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I say no to social invitations when I
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